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DO YOU REALLY NEED HER NOW?
By Olatunbosun OlalekanFebruary 22, 20203 min read3,678 views89 comments
Dear Brother,
It pleases me to write to you, I hope it pleases you to hear from me.
I am really disturbed about a phenomenon. I really need an answer. I'm writing this to you maybe I would get an answer.
Do you really need her now? I understand you want to go with the flow. I understand you want to follow the trend. Yes. Your excuses are reasonable to you but apparently, not germane to common sense.
Your guy has 5 girl friends, another friend is 'testing the waters' of two. Segun has three on probation. But that's not a reason for you to have one.
Don't chase her if you won't keep her genuinely!
Oh! You never had a girlfriend because you are scared of heartbreak. Now, you want to pick her as a 'pilot test'. Would you allow another person use your sister's heart as a specimen?
Sandra broke your heart? And you want to take a revenge? How many heart would you break to satisfy your vengeance? Will that make you a superman?
Don't chase her if you won't keep her genuinely!
Oh! You are struggling to reach your dreams. You think having a woman is not a bad idea. Anyways, I don't think it is. But she's sucking you dry. She will always 'quickly need four thousand everyday'. She is financially a pest. She places a demand her father can't meet on you but you love her right. Hell no!
Do you need her now?
She flirts. She lies. She's become a 'community project '. You have become emotionally bankrupt since you've been going out with her. Enough of those secret tears, let her go.
Do you really need her?
My brother, you don't need a relationship to scale new heights. If it doesn't work for you, opt out!
Your happiness is important.
Loving someone is important. Loving yourself is 'importanter'.
Love yourself enough to walk away from anything that haunts your happiness, dreams and strength.
Please, share your thoughts with me in the comment session.
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Written by
Olatunbosun Olalekan
Leadership advisor, strategist and writer.
Few writers can do this. You do it consistently.
You named the thing.
The third paragraph wrecked me in the best way.
Forwarded to my mentees. Thank you.
This is timely. Painfully so.
Sir, you've put words to what I've been feeling for months. God bless you.
Was scrolling aimlessly and this stopped me. Glad it did.
Practical wisdom I'll act on this week.
Sharing with my team first thing tomorrow.
Please write more like this.