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NOW THAT YOU SAID YES, WHAT CHANGED?
By Olatunbosun OlalekanOctober 8, 20203 min read707 views48 comments
Sequel to my last post tagged 'Now that she said yes, what changed?' I got a lot of positive feedback from 'my sisters in the Lord😄' but forgive me... I want to turn the table.
While the chase was on,.
You were quick to 'urgently need 2k'
Just while he was still trying to convince you, you were quick to answer his calls and slow to pick offences at anything he did.
He took you on expensive dates just to let you know he wanted to take care of you. You didn't go alone; you went with two other friends who 'wanted to meet him'.
You spent hours talking over the phone. Well, he did most of the calling. He is a go-getter.
You made him 'feel at home'. In his mind, he has all he desires,, and he can't hide the tranquility that feeling brings to his heart as he confesses his love for you.
Finally, you said yes.
It was an emotional moment for him. At last, his dreams came true! He called his friends to announce the victory. They congratulated him.
And boom! It's one month into the relationship.
You just noticed his head has an oval shape,, and you are not pleased with it.
He is fond of wearing palm sandals,, and you are not cool with it.
His calls are becoming tiring. You now feel he no longer gives you breathing space.
What changed my sister?
Why did you consent if you would end up finding unnecessary faults you feel you can't condone?
Why did you say yes if you think he is not of of your calibre?
I have heard breakup stories like, 'Mike, you know I love you,, but you are below my standard.". Sorry oo.. Standardized test.
Don't be a whore,, girl. If you are not planning to keep him, don't accept him. Not even out of pity.
I have come in peace.
Ire oo
© OLALEKAN Olatunbosun
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Olatunbosun Olalekan
Leadership advisor, strategist and writer.
This deserves a wider audience.
Quietly profound.
Solid as always.
I felt this in my bones.
This is rare. Don't stop.
On point as always.
Beautifully framed.
You named the thing.
Gentle wisdom is the best wisdom.
You've gifted us another keeper.